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09-15-2008 9:39 PM -- By: Kim Nesbitt, From: Amherst (still)
It is so hard starting a new high school where no one knows the kind of pain we as a grade felt when you left us. This was part of the reason i didnt want to go to Bishop Brady, because I knew almost no one would understand like my friends in Mont Vernon and Amherst would. It has been the hardest year and a half of my life, but it has definately made me a much stronger person, but McKayla's death has also let me realize that I need to keep my friends close and appreciate everything new and old in my life. For that I am thankful I had a great friend like McKayla.
09-13-2008 1:55 PM -- By: , From:
Prayer to Live With Grace
May we discover through pain and torment,
the strength to live with grace and humor.
May we discover through doubt and anguish,
the strength to live with dignity and holiness.
May we discover through suffering and fear,
the strength to move toward healing.
May it come to pass that we be restored to health and to vigor.
May Life grant us wellness of body, spirit, and mind.
And if this cannot be so, may we find in this transformation and passage
moments of meaning, opportunities for love
and the deep and gracious calm that comes
when we allow ourselves to move on.
09-11-2008 2:39 PM -- By: A FRIEND ON 7TH ANNIVERSARY OF 9/11, From:
By Pat, reprinted from TCF atlanta online sharing
I pray that this posting will not sound the way that many of us feel that society has treated the loss of our children.
I am approaching the 2nd Birthday without ryan. His birthday is 9/3. He would have been 26. As all of you know, most people feel very uncomfortable about discussing our children.
I am renovating ryan's home near atlanta. Last week I went to dinner with friends and family. The discussion centered around 9/11 and elvis. It was commented how awful the surviving families must feel with the approaching anniversary. I was invited to join a service on that day. I listened choking back the tears. I try hard not to bother others about this unbearable grief. Finally i replied " I think all of you are kind and I feel terrible pain for all those families.
You see on 9/3 the sun won't be as warm, the welcome of a new day won't be inviting and what was the happiest day of my life has become the saddest day of my life."
I pray that this does not sound awful. I am pleased that our society is giving the appropriate attention to this horrific loss. However, those of us know the loss, the isolation, the search for meaning and ultimately the acceptance of there are no answers to such a horrible assault against those precious people who died.
So on 9/3, I will miss my child as i do daily. I will also weep on 9/11 just as all of you will. Unfortunately, we have not been treated with such empathy by this society. I pray that this posting is viewed with the understanding that I too am a parent grieving.
08-31-2008 11:15 AM -- By: , From:
where are you God ... where are you - where are you?
08-30-2008 7:28 PM -- By: Alexis Keable, From: Amherst
It is hard to think that a year and a half has gone by without you. Its hard to start a whole new school, a new year, a new chapter in our lives without you. Our grade has a really bad reputation from the teachers persective until that 7th grade year. On that dredful day, March 19 2007, our grade came together in ways no one could expect. Ever since you left us, everyone has a new perspective on life. On how it could end for us tomorrow. And even though your death was very very tragic, it was the thing that made our grade closer. We aren't known as the horrible grade anymore. We are known as the grade that stuck together through something no one should experance. But we all made it through together. I miss you so much, words cant explain. But I also wanted to thank you. I wanted to thank you for helping me be the person I am today. Ever since the day you left, I have apprecaited the little things and after greeving your loss, I am a much happier person since I dont care about the small stuff that would make me upset before. I love you forever and always and wish I had more time with you. Please help you family. I know even though it has been a year and a half this isn't something you just get over. Since you family is so close, it is probably something they will never be able to get over. They know your with them always but please keep helping them through the hard times as I know you will.
Love, Alexis Keable
08-29-2008 12:42 PM -- By: , From:
Bereaved Parents Wish List
- I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had her back.
- I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that she was important to you also.
- If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child, and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
- I wish you wouldn't "kill" my child again by removing her pictures, artwork, or other remembrances from your home
- Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
- I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you; but, I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child, my favorite topic of the day.
- I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you, too. I wish you would let me know those things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
- I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over in six months. These first months are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
- I am working very hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child, and I will always grieve that she is dead.
- I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or to "be happy." Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
- I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
- I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
- When I say "I'm doing okay," I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
- I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
- Your advice to "take one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time, even a moment at at time.
- Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
- I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my child died, and I will never be that person again.
- I wish very much that you could understand; understand my loss and my grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. BUT I pray daily that you will never understand.
08-27-2008 10:05 PM -- By: how many people are ready to die --- your KK was , From:
Being Ready to Die
Death often happens suddenly. A car accident, a plane crash, a fatal fight, a war, a flood, and so on. When we feel healthy and full of energy, we do not think much about our deaths. Still, death might come very unexpectedly.
How can we be prepared to die? By not having any unfinished relational business. The question is: Have I forgiven those who have hurt me and asked forgiveness from those I have hurt? When I feel at peace with all the people I live with, my death might cause great grief, but it will not cause guilt or anger.
When we are ready to die at any moment, we also are ready to live at any moment.
08-27-2008 5:22 PM -- By: Ally, From:
Your family came over on saturday, and I believe that the whole Geisinger family visited for dinner, even you. It was a BLAST, but it wouldn't have happened without you. Our two families share a relationship that, through you, went from being four parents, to four friends. I have to say that I enjoy sitting on my deck watching the Jonas Brothers with Amanda while my dad and yours talk about, "clearing tree's from the yard" and "building the rock walls in the driveway"
I miss you terribly, and I think aboutyou every day!
08-27-2008 6:37 AM -- By: , From:
MAKING IT THROUGH
The pain is all around me and I don't know what to do.
How can I bear it all the time and try to make it through?
I always knew I loved you; I just didn't know how deep.
I really thought you would be mine, for all my life to keep.
I liked you and I loved you more with all the passing days.
You were wonderful and marvelous in many different ways.
Now I don't know where, or how, to send you all my love.
Is there some way for me to find you in your world above?
Who were you? Were you 'real' and did you in fact exist?
Most days I seem to search for you - you are so very missed.
Sometimes I can picture you and you feel so very near,
But I can't show my love now I can't find you here.
My mind knows but just can't understand your death.
Or how it can still be possible for me to take a breath.
You're so much a part of me, how can you just be 'gone';
and how can a broken heart still beat and carry on?
I wish I could be someone else but that would mean no 'you'.
I must live with pain and longing but give life a brighter hue.
I must find a place to send my love, which grows with every day.
So let me know that you're alright, and love will find its way.
08-26-2008 5:59 AM -- By: , From:
Remembering the Dead
When we lose a dear friend, someone we have loved deeply, we are left with a grief that can paralyse us emotionally for a long time. People we love become part of us. Our thinking, feeling and acting are codetermined by them: Our fathers, our mothers, our husbands, our wives, our lovers, our children, our friends ... they are all living in our hearts. When they die a part of us has to die too. That is what grief is about: It is that slow and painful departure of someone who has become an intimate part of us. When Christmas, the new year, a birthday or anniversary comes, we feel deeply the absence of our beloved companion. We sometimes have to live at least a whole year before our hearts have fully said good-bye and the pain of our grief recedes. But as we let go of them they become part of our "members" and as we "re-member" them, they become our guides on our spiritual journey.
08-25-2008 9:57 PM -- By: Michelle, From: Amherst
Wow, words simply can't explain all the emotions i still feel going through your beautiful site and whenever i think about you (which is almost all the tyme.)
Well, your class made it, we graduated AMS. felt wrong without you... Ally's speech remembering you was absolutely amazing, i had to go tell her so afterwards. and it was indescribeable having your Mom and Dad and Amanda at graduation.
I knoe you'll be with us in a few days as we start high school, without you physically with us. the teachers will never really be able to understand that special bond our grade has since they weren't there that day with us. it hurts to leave all those teachers behind who were with us, who can understand a bit of what we felt that day. what we feel every day.
i went to the dedication of your field a few weeks ago, i'll think of you every tyme i go by your beatiful marker. it's nice to have a reminder of you near us, we had so many at AMS!
look after your Mum and Dad and Amanda and your whole family, they're truly amazing. no one should have to go through what they have losing their baby girl.
Loving and Missing you,
08-18-2008 2:42 PM -- By: , From:
I have a heart full of memories
That's all I have left of you
Each one treasured fondly
With all the things
We used to do.
I have a beautiful angel
In heaven high above
A beautiful beautiful angel
I was blessed to love.
08-18-2008 2:40 PM -- By: , From:
Go to God
by Grace E. Easley
When a friend is feeling sorrow
That you wish that you could share,
And no words of any language
Can remove the grief they bear,
When the unexpected shadows
Fall across the path they trod,
There is no human remedy,
When a brave heart's torn asunder,
And it's courage seems too small
There is no solace found in pain
That overtakes us all.
When hot tears keep on falling
'Til they drench the very sod,
To find someone to dry them,
There's a reason for each heartache,
Though we cannot see it now,
And we grow with every sorrow,
That Heaven will allow.
Though we always seek the sunlight,
Earth is still "a vale of tears"
And only God can help us bear
The burden of the years.
We've simply got to trust Him,
And we can't afford to doubt,
Because He has created life,
He knows what it's about.
Because His dear feet also walked
These narrow paths we trod,
To heal our broken spirits.
08-16-2008 1:16 PM -- By: , From:
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
08-15-2008 3:30 AM -- By: , From:
Heavenly God, shine Your Sonlight on my thoughts and emotions today. Thaw this block of ice that imprisons me, and free me to move again. Amen.
08-13-2008 10:26 AM -- By: Mommy, From:
Hi Baby Girl:
Went to NY this weekend ... Amanda saw the Jonas Brothers ...
We got to attend Mass at St. Patrick's Cathedral. It was amazing. I felt you so strongly there.
There was not one step I took that my thoughts weren't on you ... how much you would have loved NY City.
Missing you terribly honey. So much - it is hard to put into words.
08-07-2008 2:35 PM -- By: , From:
Your angels site looks beautiful,I think. You have done a great job,all the tags has been removed.Sorry I have not been ignoring you,its just so much has been going on.I will e-mail you in a little while.Your angel is always with you. Hugs Abound, Rose
08-07-2008 12:18 PM -- By: , From:
When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
and then I started to become a woman. And then I found out that if you
allow your heart to open up, you will be shown the best, in many
One friend is needed when you're going through things with your partner.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your
parents. Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in
your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop,
share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.
One friend will say, 'Let's cry together,' another, 'Let's fight
together, ' another, 'Let's walk away together.' One friend will meet
your spiritual need, another your shoe fetish, another your love for
movies, another will be with you in your season of confusion, another
will be your clarifier, another the wind beneath your wings.
But whatever their assignment in your life, on whatever the occasion, on
whatever the day, or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym
shoes on and hair pulled back, or to hold you back from making a
complete fool of yourself ... those are your best friends.
It may all be wrapped up in one woman, but for many, it's wrapped up in
several... one from 6th grade, one from high school, some from the
college years, a couple from old jobs, on some days your mother, on some
days your neighbor, on others, your sisters, cousins, and on some days,
There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never
did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people
from your past, there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future.
08-05-2008 1:16 PM -- By: , From:
Jesus Takes Away Fatality
The great mystery of the incarnation is that God became human in Jesus so that all human flesh could be clothed with divine life. Our lives are fragile and destined to death.
But since God, through Jesus, shared in our fragile and mortal lives, death no longer has the final word. Life has become victorious.
Paul writes: "And after this perishable nature has put on imperishability and this mortal nature has put on immortality, then will the words of scripture come true:
"Death is swallowed up in victory. Death, where is your victory? Death, where is your sting?" (1 Corinthians 15:54).
Jesus has taken away the fatality of our existence and given our lives eternal value.
08-05-2008 1:05 PM -- By: , From:
All People Lifted Up with Jesus
The death and resurrection of Jesus are God's way to open for all people the door to eternal life. Jesus said:
"When I am lifted up from the earth, I shall draw all people to myself" (John 12:32).
Indeed, all people, from all times and places, are lifted up with Jesus on the cross and into the new life of the resurrection. Thus, Jesus' death is a death for all humanity, and Jesus' resurrection is a resurrection for all humanity.
Not one person from the past, present, or future is excluded from the great passage of Jesus from slavery to freedom, from the land of captivity to the promised land, from death to eternal life.
07-31-2008 10:55 PM -- By: Kendra, From: Ohio
McKayla is a beautiful girl. You have honored her life in so many precious ways and I imagine she must be so proud of your family for keeping her spirit alive. God bless.
07-29-2008 8:12 AM -- By: , From:
I saw you today
Not with my eyes, with my mind.
I hugged you today
Not with my arms, with my heart.
I heard you whisper "Mum"
Not in my ears, through the wind.
My ears heard the thunder crack.
My heart feels the impact.
My mind understands
Why you decided to go.
My heart refuses
To believe it was so.
I saw you today.
Not with my eyes, with my mind.
I hugged you today.
Not with my arms, with my heart.
I told you I love you today.
Not in words...with longing.
07-29-2008 8:10 AM -- By: , From:
"Woe is me for my hurt! My wound is grievous: but I said, Truly this is a grief, and I must bear it" (Jeremiah 10:19 kjv).
07-28-2008 12:27 PM -- By: , From:
A COMPASSIONATE FRIEND
by: Kathryn A. Pelky
A compassionate friend will take your hand,
They will sit, and listen, and understand.
You don't have to hold back and pretend,
They know your thoughts and can comprehend.
A compassionate friend lets you open your heart,
With them you don't have to play a part.
You can talk, or cry, or even complain,
But, with them, you never have to explain.
A compassionate friend will help you to live,
Whatever you say, or do, they will forgive.
They, too, know your hurt will never go away,
So they will listen and let you have your say.
They have been down this endless path,
So, somehow, they can help you with your wrath.
If anyone can help your heart to mend,
It has to be a compassionate friend.
07-27-2008 12:52 PM -- By: , From:
When tomorrow starts without me
When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye,
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for awhile,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked
through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you."
Today for life on earth is past,
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way
There's no longing for the past.
But you have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you take my hand
And share my life with me?
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
07-27-2008 11:34 AM -- By: A FRIEND ... LOVING U, From:
AND GOD SAID
I said, "God, I hurt."
And God said, "I know."
I said, "God, I cry a lot."
And God said, "That is why I gave you tears."
I said "God, I am so depressed."
And God said, "That is why I gave you Sunshine."
I said, "God, life is so hard."
And God said, "That is why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "God, my loved one died."
And God said, "So did mine."
I said, "God, it is such a loss."
And God said, "I saw mine nailed to a cross."
I said, "God, but your loved one lives."
And God said, "So does yours."
I said, "God, where are they now?"
And God said, "Mine is on My right and yours will be in the Light."
I said, "God, it hurts."
And God said, "I know."
07-27-2008 1:19 AM -- By: , From:
Sorry to be sending a mass,but I have been out at the lake for the last 10 days and have so many guestbooks I need to sign.For those of you that have came to visit moma and signed her book,"THANK YOU". It does this ole heart good to hear from you.And I am sorry for not being there more for you all.You all touch my heart deeply and I think of you all always.May God send you peace and comfort.Blessings To All.
Hugs Abound, Rose
07-23-2008 7:16 AM -- By: Charlie, From: Mayo , Maryland
To the Geisinger family and friends,I am so sorry for your loss.This is a wonderful memorial to your beautiful daughter.Reading through its pages brought me to tears many times.It breaks my heart that so many young people lose their live's,live's filled with so much promise.My niece Dorothy would be drawn to your angel McKayla.I'm sure they are the best of angel friends.Please except my heart felt condolenses and know that your angel McKayla and your family will remain in my thoughts and prayer's today and always.Rest in the arms of angels sweet McKayla.Give my love to Dorothy.Love & Hugs,Charlie.
07-22-2008 5:38 PM -- By: renee, From:
hi moe, it was my pleasure to visit your beautiful angel... thank you for your visit, it was so nice to hear from you!
~mommy 2 skye harrison, daughter of maria romanchick both on vm~ i know mckayla is having fun with my baby skye...
07-22-2008 2:04 PM -- By: renee, From:
god bless you always beautiful angel... praying for you and your family! mommy 2 skye harrison, daughter of maria romanchick both on vm! click on the angel...
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